I am resigned.
Either I have quit something or I have admitted that something is inevitable.
Words have meaning – in context, depending upon the person, the situation, the background, and the intent. I have resigned from things before, and I have been resigned to a many things as well.
So also, the tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is full of wickedness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself. People can tame all kinds of animals and birds and reptiles and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is an uncontrollable evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it breaks out into curses against those who have been made in the image of God. (James 3:5-9 NLT)
I have recently experienced a loss of control of my tongue, rather the typing fingers, in a conversation on a sensitive subject. Not knowing everything, I went on what I did know, which was rather unfortunate. In hurt and anger and confusion, I spoke with someone about a few things which instead of being discussed, should have been lifted up in prayer.
Unfortunately, my words were used against me, twisted, and shared – from deeply private to openly public. What I did in confusion, before I knew more, based on my assumptions (although my assumptions where formed on the words on those I believed – I missed a very key detail, a detail which changed the entire context.) I added to the confusion. I set a great forest, still smoldering from the fires of gossip and evil, on fire, once more.
My words, while for me where understood, and for me, not made of lighter fluid, indeed became so. Reviewing the conversation, I noticed things that indeed were dreadfully misinterpreted, and indeed, it can be rightly justified in doing so. While my intentions I know, intentions do not carry well on paper, or in second hand conversations. So, my words, which I knew the context of, became a blazing flame of destruction.
It has made me rather ill, but more firmly committed to taming the untamable.
Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone. (Colossians 4:6 NLT)
I do not think that this is simply the matter of answering with doctrine, but with Grace, working that which is good for the situation. We must be resigned to good communication, so that the fruit of our lips declare godly things. Christ says in Matthew (5.36-37) that our word must be as good as an oath. It must be a simple yes or no. Our words represent us, and cannot be retrieved once issued, so we must be resigned to making sure those words are rightly placed, timely, and cannot be misunderstood.
Either I resign myself to this, or I resign from attempting to control this tongue.