Is Sex Love? Is Love Sex?

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For many ancient cultures, it is not. Even to the point of allowing that what we would consider homosexuality today, is not really homosexuality, because love is not involved.

The study, obtained by Fox News, found that Pashtun men commonly have sex with other men, admire other men physically, have sexual relationships with boys and shun women both socially and sexually — yet they completely reject the label of “homosexual.” The research was conducted as part of a longstanding effort to better understand Afghan culture and improve Western interaction with the local people.

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We know from ancient sources that such acts where not considered homosexuality (perhaps, first of all, because they really didn’t have a concept of sexuality to begin with). Today, in the remnants of antiquity, we find much the same attitudes.

So, I guess my question is, can sex be separated from love, should it? And how does this play into our discussions on homosexuality, dominance between men and women, and our changing views of love and the beloved?

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8 Replies to “Is Sex Love? Is Love Sex?”

  1. As a single, celibate United Methodist clergywoman, I contend that engaging in sex is a choice. Making that choice has given me a measure of freedom to love others in a very deep, intimate, non-sexual way. Certainly we can love others without expressing that love sexually.

  2. I see here the signs of hypocrisy. Islam, like traditional Christianity, rejects homosexuality as sin. So these presumably Muslim Afghans redefine what they want to do as not homosexuality. That way they get off the hook of their religious courts, and think they also get off the hook with God.

    Of course there is a distinction between homosexual erotic love and homosexual activity, just as with their heterosexual equivalents. Society today claims that the first must lead to the second, because it rejects the whole notion of chastity. But you can also have the activity without the love. That doesn’t make it any more acceptable in traditional religion.

  3. The love I have for my wife is the same as I have for my children. So yes I think love can be separated from sex. I think sex can enrich a relationship but it isn’t love and should be separated from love.
    Another example comes to mind, is Christopher Reeves, after he lost his ability to perform sexually he still, by all accounts, still had a loving relationship with his wife.

  4. this reminds me of a post someone did a while back (I have no idea who, and am much too lazy to go looking) on how sex was equal to marriage in the Bible. There was no engagement, and when two had sex they were married. in the same way that in getting married they had sex. It wasn’t something that was consummated, but rather, it just simply wasn’t marriage until sex happened.

    along the lines of this then would be, having sex would then be marrying all these people. would definitely be homosexuality.

    i’m not saying this culture thought that… i’m just thinking about how it might apply…

    there are people everywhere doing all kinds of foolishness and justifying it to themselves… Romans 1:18….
    these people live it out to the letter.

    (also, I agree with peter – hey pete.).

  5. I think that obviously, sex outside of marriage is a sin, and even sex within a marriage can be a sin if it’s not kept sacred. Sin is warned about because it hurts us. No matter how you want to try to justify it. We all fall short. There is hope for everyone, but the reason God says these things are vial are because they hurt you physically and spiritually.

    1. Not to mention it hurts other people. We wouldn’t have such a large outbreak of STD’s in this country if that were not the case. There are also other unmentionable things.

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