Last night I was talking to a man after men’s group. He was sharing with me his story of the mess that was left behind from his fathers death and how he hadn’t left a written will. He then told me that he was in the process of writing his own will and setting things in motion. He shared a few more things to which I said, “Mate, I am probably going to tread on your toes here and I don’t apologise if I am, are you suicidal and planning to knock yourself off?”
He immediately teared up, looked at me and said yes he was. I asked him bluntly if he had a plan and a date set in which he would carry it out. To which he said yes, told me the date in early May and that he intended to get blind drunk and what ever happened, will happen.
This is a guy who is tough. He has a history of violence, drugs and alcohol abuse, spent time in jail. He is also a guy who has recently started taking his faith seriously and the Lord is doing a tremendous work in bringing about change. After talking more, we prayed. I asked the Lord to move through, over and well up within him. To bring healing to his memories, to heal the traumas of the past, to deliver him from this death wish and fill him with God’s spirit of life and the will to live.
While I prayed with him, my hand went red hot, he went hot. After I finished praying with him, he said, “Wow, that was some prayer!” We then talked more and I didn’t get home until after midnight.
The majority of suicidal people give out many hints that they are suicidal. We need to be aware of what they are and be ready to ask the blunt question, “Are you suicidal?”
- Those hints can be that they are going through a hard time, been depressed and suddenly have snapped out of it… this can be an indication that they have made the decision to end the pain.
- Start giving personal effects away.
- Talk about doing something once and for all.
- Going through an extended time of grief or deep personal trauma.
- Going through a deep time of stress.
- Start putting things into place, asking people to look after their kids if something happens etc.
Last night was the beginning of a new journey for this man. I told him I would have to speak to others about his state of mind and that together we would get him help. To which he agreed.