I am a prude, generally, but given the fact that this topic is covered in the bible – I mean, honestly, have you head really read the Song of Songs, Ruth and Esther? No, no, I mean really read them? Um, intimate relations, are important to humanity on a variety of levels. A new report is showing that monogamy is the ideal state. Shocking, I know…
This correlation is much stronger for women than for men. Female emotional well-being seems to be tightly bound to sexual stability — which may help explain why overall female happiness has actually drifted downward since the sexual revolution.
Among the young people Regnerus and Uecker studied, the happiest women were those with a current sexual partner and only one or two partners in their lifetime. Virgins were almost as happy, though not quite, and then a young woman’s likelihood of depression rose steadily as her number of partners climbed and the present stability of her sex life diminished.
When social conservatives talk about restoring the link between sex, monogamy and marriage, they often have these kinds of realities in mind. The point isn’t that we should aspire to some Arcadia of perfect chastity. Rather, it’s that a high sexual ideal can shape how quickly and casually people pair off, even when they aren’t living up to its exacting demands. The ultimate goal is a sexual culture that makes it easier for young people to achieve romantic happiness — by encouraging them to wait a little longer, choose more carefully and judge their sex lives against a strong moral standard.
This is what’s at stake, for instance, in debates over abstinence-based sex education. Successful abstinence-based programs (yes, they do exist) don’t necessarily make their teenage participants more likely to save themselves for marriage. But they make them more likely to save themselves for somebody, which in turn increases the odds that their adult sexual lives will be a source of joy rather than sorrow.
Read the rest of the report here:
- Expanded Monogamy (psychologytoday.com)
- Premature Monogamy (andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com)
- Monogamy Rocks! (slog.thestranger.com)
- Lovers Can’t Agree on Their Stance on Monogamy (healthland.time.com)
- Monogamy Is Natural (slog.thestranger.com)
- Wait, what’s monogamy? Many young couples don’t know (theglobeandmail.com)
- What is the Link Between Sexual Restraint and National Prosperity? (seanwhitenack.wordpress.com)