Why Monogamy Matters – Hey, It’s Biblical

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I am a prude, generally, but given the fact that this topic is covered in the bible – I mean, honestly, have you head really read the Song of Songs, Ruth and Esther? No, no, I mean really read them? Um, intimate relations, are important to humanity on a variety of levels. A new report is showing that monogamy is the ideal state. Shocking, I know…

This correlation is much stronger for women than for men. Female emotional well-being seems to be tightly bound to sexual stability — which may help explain why overall female happiness has actually drifted downward since the sexual revolution.

Among the young people Regnerus and Uecker studied, the happiest women were those with a current sexual partner and only one or two partners in their lifetime. Virgins were almost as happy, though not quite, and then a young woman’s likelihood of depression rose steadily as her number of partners climbed and the present stability of her sex life diminished.

When social conservatives talk about restoring the link between sex, monogamy and marriage, they often have these kinds of realities in mind. The point isn’t that we should aspire to some Arcadia of perfect chastity. Rather, it’s that a high sexual ideal can shape how quickly and casually people pair off, even when they aren’t living up to its exacting demands. The ultimate goal is a sexual culture that makes it easier for young people to achieve romantic happiness — by encouraging them to wait a little longer, choose more carefully and judge their sex lives against a strong moral standard.

This is what’s at stake, for instance, in debates over abstinence-based sex education. Successful abstinence-based programs (yes, they do exist) don’t necessarily make their teenage participants more likely to save themselves for marriage. But they make them more likely to save themselves for somebody, which in turn increases the odds that their adult sexual lives will be a source of joy rather than sorrow.

Read the rest of the report here:

Why Monogamy Matters – NYTimes.com.


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Joel L. Watts
Joel L. Watts holds a Masters of Arts from United Theological Seminary with a focus in literary and rhetorical criticism of the New Testament. He is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of the Free State, analyzing Paul’s model of atonement in Galatians. He is the author of Mimetic Criticism of the Gospel of Mark: Introduction and Commentary (Wipf and Stock, 2013), a co-editor and contributor to From Fear to Faith: Stories of Hitting Spiritual Walls (Energion, 2013), and Praying in God's Theater, Meditations on the Book of Revelation (Wipf and Stock, 2014).

4 thoughts on “Why Monogamy Matters – Hey, It’s Biblical

  1. This is so completely skewed by heteronormative expectations of behavior and the focus group phenomenon of people who wish to please the facilitator and so respond with answers that are expected or within the realm of perceived normality. I call this complete b.s.

    1. You can…. but…. that is your perception. I would like to see the data sampling before I make a judgment call on the matter.

      Besides, even in nature, there are animals that mate for life.

      And Vulcans as well as the Loriens

  2. It’s hardly surprising.

    While some people call it sexual freedom, how free really is the 16-year-old girl a friend of mine knows who’s currently being treated for her second case of chlamydia?

    Or how free is the girl who sits by the phone because the guy claimed that he’d call, but it turns out that he really just said that to get her pants off?

    Or the woman who has to have blood tests done to figure out who fathered her baby? or, for that matter, the potential fathers who are relying on a blood test to tell them whether they have rights — or responsibilities — with the child?

    All in all, I see only an upside to monogamy.

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