Simon suggests that casual sex is actually worse than long-term committed sex. Her rationale is that if sex is like communicating, then, the chit-chat of casual sex is like small talk. It is boring, mundane, and forced. It leaves you with nothing to know the person by….
This essay is somewhat in her book:
Bodies remember. High-quality, committed sex is lovemaking that explores not just one another’s bodies at particular times, but one another’s embodied selves as they reach from remembered times and to anticipated times. Casual sex is tissue-thin when compared with committed sex.